When A Guy Calls You Babe & Why I Still Do It
I’m at a point in my life where (despite being married) I have several women on rotation. I like having affairs, I like the sneaking around and the excitement that that brings. I know everything there is to know about cheating, from how to get away with it, to excuses to get out of the house to cheat, to where to take affair partners all the way to how to end an affair.
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When A Guy Calls You Babe
I’m a pragmatist. Finding women to have an affair with is tough enough but being able to cheat on your wife and get away with it is an art. And when you’re seeing one or multiple women, it’s pretty tough to remember all those names and not accidentally spit the wrong name out at the worst of times. Saying babe has always been my get out of jail card, because I call everyone from my wife to my affair partners babe.
But before writing this piece, I cast my mind back to when I was single and hitting on women and started to make a mental note of why I used to call the ladies babe even then.
Below Is Why I’ve Always Done It (Mostly Over Text)
1) Being in the friend zone is the worst place to be. It’s awful. It’s like being cast into the wilderness and when I’m with my friends discussing their dating life, it’s not uncommon for the teasing to begin once they realise that they’ve been put in the friend zone. I’ve always been aware of this, and in my early days have been placed there before. And having experienced it, I would consciously make sure that right off the bat, the ladies I was chatting with knew that friendship wasn’t on the table. I had enough friends. Women are so intelligent that when they want to put you in friendzone, they don’t quite say, ‘hey I’m moving you there.’ They say it subtly and say things like ‘you’re like a brother to me.’
Kill me know I’d think. So after having heard that a couple of times, I used to make sure that I’d start using the phrase babe very early on. If they ever questioned it I’d always reply with ‘I call all my female friends babe.’ Of course this wasn’t true, but I set the tone from day 1. And that was I was chasing her. I was into her and it was my subtle way of saying I wanted her.
2) I like to please women. I suppose most men love the chase and I’m no different. From many conversations, there’s something quite strange that came up. And that’s that women loved to be called babe. Maybe they’d pick different words, but they loved the comfort it gave them, they loved how it made them feel and they loved how the attention.
Whilst of course some women were like ‘don’t call me babe’. Many of the ones I chased never even questioned it, they just liked it. And if for whatever reason we’d get into a fight and I stopped saying it, they’d start to ask why I stopped. It made them feel warm and fuzzy and I liked that.
3) It’s a term of endearment. There’s no denying it’s a nice phrase. It’s not tacky or undermining. There are so many tacky words that you woman have been called and I’ve always found, then even when I start a relationship with whomever I’m chasing, I still call them babe. Sure in part it’s so that I don’t screw up and get caught, but long before I was married, long before I saw affair partners, I always used the term babe.
In fact, once I was in a relationship, I used to call them babe or better yet baby. I’m a loving person, I’m tactile. I like being affectionate. And if I can do that with words as well as actions then at least I feel like I’m being congruent.
What does it mean when a guy calls you babe?
To put it plainly, it means he likes you. It’s his way of ensuring that you know he likes you. A guy wouldn’t call his sister babe, or his sisters friends babe, unless of course they lived in Essex, England. But it’s said so that women know he’s interested. It’s a whole lot easier than saying ‘I like you‘.
It’s our version of being subtle. And whilst it’s not so subtle, you’ve got to read between the lines. If a guy worked for a female boss, the last thing on earth he’d ever call her is babe. Unless of course he’s looking to get fired.
Is It OK To Call A Girl You’re Not Dating Babe
Let’s for a moment ignore the fact that I use the word babe very strategically. The question of is it ok to call a girl that you’re not seeing babe is entirely up to you. Introduce it early and make it seem normal. Never discuss it, unless she brings it up. If she takes issue with it, then of course it’s not at all ok to call her babe or anything else she doesn’t like. But get it in early and use it often. Use it on the phone, via text and in person and before long, she’ll miss when you don’t say it.
Babe Vs Baby
If I’m honest, I think it’s not right to call a lady you’re not seeing baby. Baby has a stronger meaning behind it, almost assuming she’s yours already. In fact using it without being in a relationship is simply going to make you come across as a little bit presumptuous and very sleazy.
Final Words
I’ve always used the word babe. You could argue perhaps too strategically but I’ve always done it because most women have loved it (in my experience.) But if you’re a female reading this, rest assured it’s his way of saying he likes you. And what women don’t understand is that men, when it comes to dating, suffer from 2 things above all:
1) Having the guts to walk over to a lady and putting approach anxiety to one side.
2) Saying flat out to a woman ‘hey, I really like you.’
Recently, it turns out there’s also now the trauma that most men face when it comes to picking out outfits for a first date.
And so whilst this is something many of us do work on, understand that we also have our own subtle ways of showing you how much we like you. And saying babe is most definitely one of them.
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