Are You Still A Cheater If You’ve Never Been Caught

Why would someone write a blog on cheating? Well, here’s the thing, I’m a married man with 3 young kids and I cheat. There I said it. Let’s be honest it’s hardly something you can shout from the rooftops.

It’s an outlet for me. It’s a source of sanity and excitement mixed together.

And if I didn’t do it, I’d probably go mad. I find that cheating makes me a better husband and father.

I go out of my way to be discreet and yet, have somehow, after years of cheating, found myself in this bubble of having a few women on the go. It’s started to feel normal. Like there’s nothing wrong with it.

And I’d love to tell you I look like Don Juan (like the guy in the picture), or have a 6 pac, or drive a Ferrari – none of these are true.

I’m probably a 7/10 on my very best day! And that takes a haircut a week and 5 weekly visits to the gym.

I drive a Volvo – which fits all 3 car seats and I always always always go home at night.

I’m hardly the catch of the Century!

Nobody on planet Earth gets in the way of me making breakfast for my kids – it always reminds me of that scene in Casino, where DeNiro’s Character says about Pesci’s:

……but around 6:30 in the morning, when he finished his day no matter where he was or what he was doing he always went home to make breakfast for his son, Nicky boy.

That was me, but without the racketeering or murder the night before. But for sure the womanising we had in common.

So how did it go from struggling to getting a girlfriend to juggling many women?

Keep reading, I share all. I will be posting a lot of blogs from which you’ll learn more about me than you’ll want to.

As the protagonist of the story – only you can tell me if I’m the good guy or the bad guy. If I deserve to get caught and have my affairs discovered or if I should keep doing what I’m doing.

Now please know this, at the end of this rainbow, there’s no red carpet.

There’s no Brad Pitt making a movie of my exploits.

I live in the shadows, discretion is key or the jig is up! This very blog is registered with a web design agency with whom I have an iron clad NDA with. I’m not looking for fame or notoriety. I’m not looking to ruin my marriage or those of others. I’m not looking to speak at conferences and do a book tour. That will never ever be the case! I want to remain in the background, whilst sharing my journey.

That said, there are a couple of my friends I do confide in. Partially to brag a little but also to heed their advice:

One of them keeps saying to me:

Be careful, in the end you’ll get caught

or

the truth will come out…

Which if you’re not careful, sloppy or just plain unlucky is true.

However, my rebuttal back is simply this; TV is full of shows where the title is Unsolved.

Unsolved Murder, Unsolved Heists, Unsolved UFO sightings – whatever.

And why is that?

Because they got away with it. It’s because the truth didn’t come out, and most likely the people involved took those secrets to their graves. Hence unsolved!

In fact it lead me to ask them a question of my own. And for you too, reading this, let me ask you:

If a tree falls in a forest does it make a sound? If someone is never caught stealing are they a thief? If someone is never caught cheating are they actually a cheater?

By definition when people use the words murderer, thief, cheater – there’s this assumption that they’ve been rumbled. Caught. Found out.

But what if that wasn’t the case? What would they be then?

For my marriage, my sanity comes from having an outlet. If no one finds out, what’s the harm?

No different from lying about going out with the boys for a few drinks after work, or smoking that joint on a night out.

My goal – and as terrible as this sounds, is to at least show you my journey. Everything from what I’m thinking, how to find women to have affairs with and how to get away with it.

I’m no god. I’m not a legend. I’ve just slowly started perfecting how it all works to be able to have the confidence and the know-how to even write all of this!

I learnt so much from the first time I cheated, 20 years ago. And in the last 20 years, I’ve learnt more and more. I’m a serial cheater – I get that.

And even whilst writing this, I know it’s wrong. I know if my wife or kids found out – it would break us as a family.

I would never sit here and say – go out and cheat! That’s not my goal.

My goal is to help you not get caught, not get careless, not fall for the side chick and give it all up.

If you’re already cheating, then really, you are my target audience. If you’re simply fascinated, then read this as a cautionary tale because let me tell you something they don’t always show in the movies – cheating isn’t for everyone.

Beyond all the texts, and butterflies, and sex – there’s an emotional toll. And you have to learn to deal with that, or it’s going to be obvious the second you get home!

Your wife will sense it, your kids will sense it – shoot, I’ve even seen guys come home and just confess their sins because they couldn’t live with the guilt.

This game isn’t for everyone, and it’s certainly no game! The stakes are high, the risk is high! And yes, for me the reward at the end of it is worth it, but I’ve developed the stomach for this!

If fascination is your thing, and living vicariously through some of my stories makes for good reading – then buckle up bitches, cos we’re in for a good time!

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