22 Ways On How To Start A Conversation On Tinder
Admittedly, more people today are actively cheating or exploring discreet relationships. Apparently, you do not have to get a new phone, create a different email address, or use fake social media accounts to get away with cheating. The rise of online dating apps and websites (like Ashley Madison) has made affair dating pretty easy.
Even apps such as Tinder are designed to bring a community of like-minded individuals, especially people looking to have an affair in the most discreet way. And whilst you may think Tinder is just for people who are single, check out our guide on how to use Tinder to have affairs.
But, hooking up with a stranger for an illicit relationship, and on an online space, is easier said than done, right? The idea that people hide behind fake profiles or the fear that online connections are not always as gratifying as those in real life can be nerve-wracking. The good news is that everyone at Tinder is there for a thrilling and flirtatious experience, just like you, and finding a match shouldn’t be back-breaking.
So, you have your Tinder profile fully set up, and all that is left for you to do is make that move. But a smart move on this dating site has to be as good as your first message. Get your profile picture, your bio and your opening line right, and you will have profiles vying for you, especially when you learn the techniques of garnering more matches on Tinder.
Here are some of the best Tinder opening lines to give you clues when crafting your first messages on the app. Get to know what each opening line implies and use it as a jumping-off point.
How To Start A Conversation On Tinder | 22 Ways
1. “Wow, You Had Me at Your Hairstyle!”
You might want to lead off the conversation with a compliment. Everyone loves an ego boost, which is why compliments always go a long way to making first impressions. It doesn’t have to be their hairstyle as such. You can go for any attribute or feature that stands out in their profile. Compliment their smile, wears, accessories, or even their shoes, if noticeable.
Keep in mind that people, especially women, go quite an extra mile to look good for their profiles. Therefore, commenting on any detail that flatters her is a definite win for you. You can even take your compliment further and praise her makeup, lips, or thick eyelashes. This not only racks up the sexy meter, but it also brings you out as that one suave guy who will win her over.
2. “I Love Your Lips. You Must Be a Very Good Kisser”
Well, everyone is on Tinder for the thrill of love and romance. And, without a doubt, women do feel sexual desire, especially when cleverly aroused. The idea behind this opening line is to throw some romantic hints without necessarily being sexually explicit.
It is said that women love sexual allusions, and a compliment on her lovely lips coupled with her capacity to be a great kisser will induce the emotional connection you are both looking for.
3. “Why Did You Swipe Right?”
You definitely do not want your online conversations to dive into unnecessary come-ons because you failed to know what your match thinks about you from the word go. Asking why she swiped right will ultimately lead her to confess why she picked you. Not a good way to get started, but it is a subtle move.
Remember, some women find this point utterly disgusting, so you want to ensure you spice up your message before sending it. This might be your charm to winning the heart of a woman whose love language is words of affirmation.
4. “If I Were Going to Name a Brand of Fine Wine, I Would Name It After You”
This is probably the best Tinder pick-up line for wine lovers, or at least a pick-up line revolving around wines and wineries. The assumption is that you have gone through her bio, and it is clear to you she is a wine lover.
5. “Using Three Emojis, How Would You Describe Yourself?”
Sometimes finding the right words for your opening messages can send a shiver up your spine. And your match could be feeling the same way. But, who cannot describe themselves with some emojis? Again, describing yourself with an emoji is fun and cheesy, and most people will crack up with a smile when responding.
Emojis highlight critical clues about someone’s personality, mood, and vibe. Use this as your starting point and keep the fun going.
6. “If You Could Watch a Movie for the First Time Again, What Would That Be?”
This is a cool way to ask your match what their favourite movie is without wasting credits. If you are a brave woman looking for someone who can give you the thrill of going out to the movies, then this may be a great point to roll up your dating sleeves.
7. “What Is Your Most Embarrassing Yet Hilarious Childhood Memory? Here Is Mine….”
Looking for a fun way to make your conversation casual and chill? What about a walk down your memory lane? When your first message is a trigger to storytelling, you can bet your match will fall for it.
Make your point using fun sentiments to draw their attention. In most cases, your match will follow your lead.
8. “I Love Your Tattoos. Which One Is Your Favorite?”
First, the fact that you made that particular observation is a win already. Making detailed observations about a woman is a major turn on, at least for most women.
Secondly, asking a person to tell you more about their favourite tattoo shows that you care about their feelings concerning personal issues. And who doesn’t want that?
9. “You Have Some Beautiful Curves. But Your Smile Is My Favourite”
This is a clever way of saying you appreciate someone’s body without being explicit or coming out as a drag. Since women feel sexual desire, even in words, they will find the exact signal you are relaying in an instant.
10. “I Had a Brilliant Pickup Line Ready. But You are So Angelic It Has Run Out of My Mind”
Most women immediately shut down when countless propositions are made using annoying pick-up lines. Make a gentlemanly point with this pickup line while safeguarding yourself against burnout in the dating service.
11. “When Our Kids Become Curious About How We Met, What Lie Will You Tell Them?”
When sending messages on an online dating app, you do not want getting kids and settling down to come out as your first impression. However, you can still talk about settling down subtly and make a long-lasting impression. Again, isn’t it fun to find out the kind of ideas your match shares about lying to kids in the future?
12. “What Is the Worst Pick Up Line You Have Ever Received?”
Most people have received countless propositions in the form of pick-up lines online. Some of these lines are so dumb and moronic that coming across them again turns you off.
So, before you appear silly with some unwitty pickup lines, why not give her the chance to let out her previous frustrations with opening liners. At this point, you will have mastered her mood killers without asking.
13. “Truth or Dare?”
Think of it this way, the woman you are about to send that message to has heard all sorts of love innuendos in the name of pickup lines. Typical men across all dating sites tend to go all out with compliments, flirtatious comments, and dirty lines. But, what about you come out as that patient wolf that puts its prey on a test by sending messages with captivating cues.
And, is there a better way to deliver those cues than the “Truth or Dare” game? Plenty of studies suggest that most women are attracted to men who are both light and playful. The “Truth or Dare” game may come out as a teaser to the playful personality you possess.
If she picks ‘Truth,’ indulge her with questions about her personality, hobbies, interests, and favorites.
And if she picks a ‘Dare,’ this is when you let out your allure by daring her to flirt with you. You can even dare her to share her best opening liners, or dare her to go on a date with you. This is not only fun, but it gives you the leverage to win her over without sounding like a dating chucklehead.
14. “We are Married. But I Do Not Know What I Want to Eat. What Would You Suggest?”
Starting a conversation with this liner has two implications. One, your match at Tinder is looking for someone who will reinvigorate the thrill of romance, and taking her into a world where she pictures you and her together may definitely make all the difference.
Secondly, food has become a huge identifier in online dating, and you can never go wrong initiating conversations with the food subject. It is a clever way to inquire about her favorite meal, snack, drink, and dessert. Chances are, she will also ask you to reveal your favorite meal, and that is where you spice up your conversation.
Again, did you know that food preferences have a way of revealing a person’s personality? For instance, individuals fond of sweet-tasting foods are said to have a “sweet” personality. You can tell who they are by the type of food they love.
15. “What Motivates You to Get Up Every Morning?”
This is probably the rarest of questions online daters ask, even in the best dating sites. But did you know that most people scour these websites looking for love affairs because their partners are unappreciative and lack intellectual intimacy. In essence, gratification can be achieved beyond emotional and physical intimacy, a connection women crave for.
So, why not get started with a one-liner that will bring her into an intellectual viewpoint. Asking about her motivation to rise every morning will capture her mind, and she will definitely want to go into the depth of her mental understanding.
Again, having a glimpse of how they go about their mornings is a fun way to discover who they are and what drives them.
16. “What Is Your Favorite (or Worst) Dad Joke Ever?”
Pick up lines age, but dad jokes will always be corny and hilarious. Sometimes dad jokes can be terrible, especially when first said, but these one-liners have a way of leaving you in chuckles because of their anti-joke nature.
Asking your match to share their favourite dad jokes is a foolproof way of initiating a casual conversation. If you are looking for a fun-loving match, this a great way to find one. Lighthearted and playful individuals are good masters of one-liner jokes, even dad jokes. Who knows, you might chuckle your way to a working relationship.
17. “I Can Show You the World. What’s Your Dream Destination?”
People with wanderlust always go crazy with conversations around travelling and travel destinations. If their bio shows they are a sort of tour junkies, then this opening liner will get you on quite a good foot.
Allow your match to give you hints of destinations in the bucket lists, and ask them to give you an opportunity to take you to one of these places. However, you must be capable of taking them around the world, as insinuated. Otherwise, your first liner may be the end of a potentially exciting affair.
Again, both of you are probably looking for an escape from a dysfunctional marriage or relationship, and a trip to a dream destination may be a great way to formalize your affair.
18. “Do You Believe in Love at First Sight? Because I Never Did Until I Met You”
Well, not so many people believe in love at first sight, but that is the essence of this pick-up line. You want to go directly to what made you sign up with Tinder without offending your match. Having looked at their profile, profile picture, and description, it could be true she has given you butterflies already, and you have genuinely fallen for her. So, why not make your intentions clear with this one-liner message?
19. “Wow. Your Profile Picture Made Me Stop in My Tracks”
If you are looking for a cheesy but overt way to hit up on your match, then this should definitely be your opening liner. This is probably because the pickup line is not specific to what exactly made your heart skip a bit over her profile picture.
Women tend to brush off anything meant to elevate their body type, weight, or looks, especially when done in an ungracious way. However, compliments that are rightly crafted and respectfully delivered are a step closer to winning her heart. So, why not leave her guessing what exactly you are complimenting her for using this one-liner. She is likely to ask you what made you stop in your tracks. Clever, right? And, that’s when you roll out your witty flattery sentence after the other.
20. “I Lost My Teddy Bear Today. Will You Be My Cuddler?”
Most men in online dating platforms are either boring, awkward, or too sensual to captivate their matches. While sexy comments may be appealing to most women, it is important to know that sexual pleasure is not all that there is for them.
Instead of going all out with sex-related statements, this cuddle-focused one-liner will pull her to liking you and your personality. On one part, you grab her attention by mentioning a lost teddy bear. On the other part, you bring her into the feeling that you are a cuddle lover. Women love cuddling, whether before or after sex. So, you can never go wrong with this cuddle liner.
21. “Aww! Your Dog Is Cute. We Should Do a Pet Outing Together Sometime”
This is a perfect one-liner for pet lovers and parents. It is not only romantic to suggest a pet outing with your match, but it is also a clear sign that you share pet-related interests. The good thing with this opening liner is that it is not focused on their physical attribute or yielding to lure them to like you. The statement is purely a suggestion to spend time together while taking your pets for an outing.
Browse through their profile and identify the kind of dog they own, their experiences with the pet, and whether they prefer a partner who loves dogs too. With this information, the pick-up line is the only thing standing between you and a potential secret lover.
22. “Online Dating Is About Numbers. So, Can I Have Yours?”
It is a heated debate as to how fast you should ask for a phone number from your match. For most people, asking for a contact comes later. However, there are individuals who are pretty lucky when it comes to the game of personal contacts.
If you are the kind that hits matches with requests for phone numbers immediately you hook up, then this liner may work for you. Again, there are people who find no problem with giving out numbers from the word go. So, if it works for you, why not?
There is never a perfect pick-up line really. However, keep in mind that, whatever opening liner you choose, it gets better when such a liner is more personalized rather than a generally applied quote. As long as it is not an annoying ‘hey’ or ‘hi,’ you are already on your A-game.
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