How To Use Tinder If You’re Married (for affairs) | But Is It Worth It?
Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the last 10 years, you’ve probably heard of the app Tinder. It is one of the most popular dating apps in history and has completely revolutionised the way people meet each other. If you have been living under a rock, let me tell you a little about Tinder.
What is Tinder?
Tinder is a dating app that allows users to find potential matches based on their location. It uses GPS to show nearby users who are also using the app. Users can then swipe right if they are interested in the other user, or swipe left if they are not. If both users swipe right, then they are a match and can chat with each other.
How does Tinder work?
Tinder is very simple to use. First, you need to download the app and create an account. Then, you will be asked to provide some basic information about yourself, such as your name, age, and location. After that, you will be able to see potential matches near you. Swipe right if you are interested in the other person, or swipe left if you are not. If both users swipe right, then they are a match and can chat with each other.
What are the benefits of using Tinder?
There are many benefits of using Tinder. First, it is a great way to meet new people. You can find potential matches based on your location, which makes it very convenient. Second, Tinder is a great way to start a conversation. It can be difficult to start a conversation with someone you don’t know, but Tinder makes it easy. All you have to do is start swiping. Third, Tinder is a great way to find love. Many people have found lasting relationships through Tinder. Finally, Tinder is a great way to have fun. Swiping can be addictive, and it’s a great way to pass the time.
How To Use Tinder If You’re Married And Have An Affair
I was always fascinated by Tinder. I mean what a cool, modern and easy to use app – or at least I was told. I was dying to get on it, but being married and knowing loads of people in general, it seemed like a recipe for disaster. A couple of my buddies used it with some success and whenever I was with them, I always enjoyed the whole swipe left and right feature.
Tinder was created after I’d got married and so not only could I not use it when I was single, but using it after I was married wasn’t going to happen. That said, a friend of mine brought to my attention, that there was an upgraded version of the app that would let me use the app without other people seeing my profile.
Wait, what now?
Enter Tinder Gold – What Is It?
Tinder Gold is a paid subscription service that gives you access to certain features that are not available to non-paying users. These features include:
Get the gold treatment.
We know you. You live in a world where every moment counts—where speed equals success, you’re always on the go, and you can’t let anything slow you down. Especially your Tinder feed.
That’s why we created Tinder Gold, a members-only service, offering our most exclusive features: Passport, Rewind, Unlimited Likes, five Super Likes per day, one Boost per month, and more profile controls—as well as our new Likes You feature, so that you can see who likes you before you swipe. Think of it as your personal Swipe Right concierge—available 24/7—bringing all of your pending matches to you. Now you can sit back, enjoy a fine cocktail, and browse through profiles at your leisure.
How Can I use Tinder Without My Wife Knowing
Along with the regular Tinder features the MOST IMPORTANT thing about Tinder Gold for a guy like me was the fact that your profile would only be shown to people you liked. There was a setting that allowed you to do that. It effectively would hide your own profile, until and as such as you liked someone else’s….How Cool!!!!
That effectively meant that unless you were drunk and blindly swiping away without even looking at the pictures, you were totally protected.
Now whilst of course Tinder didn’t market this as a feature for married people, there’s no doubt that one of the smart people on their team realised that by introducing this feature, it would open the floodgates to lots and lots of married guys just like me.
I couldn’t have been more excited. Every second I got I was swiping away but of course I realised something… Whilst this feature existed and kicked ass – this app was still mostly and heavily used by single people. And let’s be honest, the last thing that single gal wanted was to meet a married guy on an app like Tinder. There were plenty of other cheating apps and sites out there for them to do that on.
Die With The Lie
Now typically, and as I’ve said in past blogs, I was past lying about being married. In fact, I realised that admitting it early on usually meant there were no games and allowed for a smoother ride; everyone knew where they stood right off the bat.
But just by the very nature of this app, I was going to have to pretend to be single. I was going to have to pretend not to be married and I was going to have to pretend that I didn’t have 3 kids. And despite cheating for so long, it all felt a little strange to do that.
Bio
It of course started with my bio. Now usually on sites like Ashley Madison (Upgrade Your Profile: Ashley Madison Tricks That Work), most men’s bios read the same. We would write the truth:
‘happily married, don’t want to upset anything at home – looking for a little excitement’.
But you just couldn’t do that on Tinder. You actually had to make something up. So I told the truth about what I did for work, I mentioned that I travelled a lot between London, Dubai, Miami and NYC – and whilst I wasn’t quite ready to settle down, I was looking for someone interesting to hang out with. I even used my real pictures, but a totally fake name. That said, here are 131 best bio on Tinder for men.
My Cover Story
The trouble with getting a match and starting a conversation meant that it involved a heck of a lot of back end work. I had to reactivate my fake Facebook profile from years ago. And I had to use a different burner phone, a new twitter handle – and setup an entirely new cover story.
It wasn’t easy, and truth be told was a lot of work. Of course once you got past the initial chat, and they had checked you out online, you of course would end up meeting.
I used to say that I’d come out of a crazy marriage to a psycho. She was completely nuts and I was just getting back out there. I played the sympathy card quite a bit – and to my surprise it did work. But it did inevitably open up a whole new can of worms, with the new Tinder Date asking loads about my ‘ex’. Some even going out of their way to give me sound advice on how to move on.
I’m sure there were plenty of other ways to do things and I tested a lot of them, but this one seemed to work the best for me.
Why Would A Married Man Have A Tinder Profile
With so many apps and sites out there, the question of why a married man would have a Tinder Account comes into question. Now given that I don’t speak for all men, I can only tell you why I did it. I cheat. Like a lot. And of course I have my own reasons, but for me it was total fascination. The app came out after I was married and plenty of people I know use it with great success. I had FOMO!
Stupid Features of Tinder Gold
There were some features that were counter intuitive on Tinder Gold – so for example hiding your profile and only showing it to people who you liked was amazing. However, the Super Boost was in complete contrast with that, and literally broadcast your profile for hours on end, without even being able to stop it. In fact I actually hated the Super Boost and sometimes found myself triggering it without realising and then praying that someone I knew wouldn’t come across my profile.
Is Tinder Gold Worth It
Old Data But Interesting
I found this article in the Guardian from back in 2015, which decided to quote a report from the GlobalWebIndex (GWI). To save you the trouble of going through the data, even back then, it was suggested that of those surveyed, 30% of Tinder Users were married, whilst 12% were in relationships. Of course Tinder hit back at these findings and refuted them whole heartedly but even now, in 2022, there’s no denying that Tinder has this magical draw not just on single people, but also married ones too.
The Results
I did end up meeting someone who was divorced. She was absolutely gorgeous, an Optician, with the most amazing fashion sense and legs up to her tits. A complete bombshell. She had completely bought into the story of my breakup and would often find herself giving me advice on how to cope with divorce and get past it.
She very quickly fit into the roster, however, I won’t lie – just keeping up with the lie, and juggling everything I’d told her about my ‘ex’ was mentally exhausting. There was just too much to remember.
After I met her and we really clicked and things got physical, I found myself in a rush to delete Tinder altogether. It was without doubt the best app I’d ever used in the dating world but the cover story, the lies, the fake social profiles – it was all too much.
I had been spoilt for too long being accepted by other women for being married, and whilst Tinder was incredible, almost addictive, the not being able to come clean about being married just meant there was too much on the back end that needed doing. There were far easier ways to cheat using other sites online without all the necessary dramas.
That said, as long as you’re careful and avoid the Super Boosts, it’s definitely worth a shot. Saying you’re married will just make you look like a creep so be sure to have your back story, social profiles and burner phone ready.
Happy swiping.
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