Being Too Available

So let’s talk about something that sometimes seems like a trade-off: being too available! You know when you’re always available to do things or help people, and don’t set boundaries or parameters, well you can end up feeling a little taken for granted. Before we get into the pros and cons of the situation, let’s start with a definition.

What is being too available? Put simply, it means that you don’t turn down a request for assistance or a chance to do something fun. You always answer texts or respond quickly if someone asks you to hang out and you’re never busy. You act like if someone wants you to do something, it’s your duty to do it no matter what.

Now, let’s get into the pros and cons of being too available.

The pros might seem obvious: when you’re too available you can make new friends. People appreciate and respect someone who can drop everything and come help out when needed. It’s also a great way to be of service to others and to build strong relationships.

But here’s the downside: being too available can open the door for strangers to take advantage of you. They may start expecting things from you for free, and if you don’t say no and set boundaries they may start expecting more and more. Also, you might start feeling taken for granted and begin to resent it.

While it’s great to be there for others or take on new projects, it’s important to set boundaries and make sure not to become too available. That way, you can make new friends, serve others, and still take care of yourself.

What is Being Too Available?

Being too available is a situation where a person offers their assistance, support, and time to others even when it’s not asked for or desired. It’s typically an issue when a person is too eager to help out, respond quickly, and offer assistance before they’re asked. This is often a habit of well-meaning people, who are usually quite kind and generous but can often feel like a burden to those who might need one-on-one attention.

Have you ever had a friend who will always offer to help before you have a chance to ask? Or maybe they call or text you all the time, even when you’re not available? That’s the real definition of being too available. It’s when a person anticipates the needs of others before they’re expressed and takes action accordingly.

So why do people become ‘too available?’ There are lots of reasons. Some people may be trying to look good in front of others and make a good impression, or maybe they just want to show off their skills and abilities. Unfortunately, being too available can backfire and make a person look desperate and insecure.

On the other hand, some people are so giving and generous that they sometimes forget their own needs, and can often be taken advantage of. When this happens, they may find that they don’t have time or energy to focus on their own interests or goals.

Being too available is usually a result of underlying issues or personal motivations that become hard to control. It’s not a practice that leads to meaningful relationships – or a life of true satisfaction.

Pros

Being too available can have some pros that you might not want to miss out on. Let’s take a look.

First, if you’re too available, you can make new friends. Maybe you’re the kind of person who loves to chat with everyone they pass by on the street, or the kind who loves to unexpectedly run into old acquaintances at the mall and catch up. Or maybe you’re the kind that dreams of hosting a big party every weekend.

Whatever it is, if you’re always available, there’s a good chance you can make new friendships with a wider range of people. And who doesn’t want that?

Second, being too available also means you can serve others. Sometimes it’s tougher to come up with ideas on how you can help make the world a better place. But if you have too much time on your hands and are available 24/7, then you can devote that time to helping those in need.

Maybe it’s a charity you can volunteer for, or a senior citizen center you can visit every weekend. Or if you’re looking for something even bigger, you can even start your own non-profit organization to make a real difference!

So when it comes to being too available, it has some great pros. You get to make new friends and serve others. What more could you ask for?

You Can Make New Friends

Well, having too much time isn’t such a bad thing! – at least you can make new friends when you’re available all the time. When folks know they can call you up at any ol’ time, they’ll be knockin’ on your door, figuratively speakin’, that is. But hey, that’s a lotta fun! It’s funny how folks just come to talk to you when you’re always around. They come in all shapes and sizes, wit all kinda different conversation topics, too. Not all of them fun, sure, but you can bet they’ll bring a smile to your face.

Of course, you can always go out and make new friends on your own. Meeting new people, having new experiences can be really awesome and really rewarding. If you put yourself out there and keep an open mind, you might just meet someone you never knew you could be friends with, and it’ll be a powerful friendship indeed. But like, when you’re always available and out there, people come to you. You don’t have to do the work, man. It’s the best of both worlds, really.

On top of that, you can even form very meaningful relationships with people who have the same hobbies or interests as you. When two specific people come together to talk about the same thing, you can create a bond, and then each and every time you meet that person, the bond gets stronger and stronger, and it’s awesome. Calling it a friendship, though – I think you don’t need me to explain that one.

Generally speaking, making new friends is a real treat. Even if it’s just a bunch of fun hangouts, or a few conversations with strangers in passing, it’s almost always a positive and rewarding experience. Ya might make the occassional mistake, but hey, that’s life, dude! The risk is almost never too big, so have fun and just go out there and make yourself accessible to the world and life’ll give you a pat on the back. Trust me, I know. I’ve had my fair share of costly mistakes, so take it from me.

You Can Serve Others

If you’re someone who loves getting involved with projects and helping people, then you really shouldn’t hold back! Being too available can allow you to serve others, and that can be incredibly rewarding. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it.

Have you ever been the first to volunteer to help someone out who seems to be in a tough spot? Or put your hand up for a new cooking, reading, or cleaning group? While it might sound daunting and time consuming, it’s amazing how much you can get out of taking the initiative.

When you take charge and help out, you’ll firstly make a lot of new friends, as others will realize your strengths and trust that you can offer a lot to a group. Plus, it makes you feel great. Sure, you might be a little tired from the effort, but you’ll have the satisfaction of a job well done, knowing that you’ve made a difference.

You’ll also become more aware of how much your help benefits others, and how appreciative they are. This can be rewarding in itself, especially as you start to make connections and relationships with those you’ve helped. Additionally, you’ll start to develop a sense of pride and accomplishment in yourself as you continue to be the first person to jump in and the last person to settle down.

The other side of being too available to serve others, however, is that it can be emotionally draining. Not everyone will be as appreciative as you expect them to be, leading to frustration and fatigue. People can also take advantage of your kindness, expecting a lot from you and not understanding when you need a break.

Ultimately, being too available to help out isn’t for everyone, but if you’re a compassionate person looking for ways to give back, you can reach amazing heights! Just be sure to be aware of what you’re getting into and take time to relax and recharge, so that you don’t get taken advantage of.

Cons

When a person is too available, one of the cons is that strangers can take advantage. It’s like setting yourself up to get taken advantage of and if you don’t care about it, then it’s fine. But if you think about the consequences, it’s better to be careful and not accept the favors of strangers.

For instance, let’s say you’re walking down the street and a stranger approaches you and asked if you can help them move some furniture into their house. Although you want to be a helpful soul, it’s best not to accept. Because you don’t really know who they are, they could be a con artist or someone who’s up to no good. You don’t want to be taken advantage of in that way. It’s best to decline their offer politely, no matter how convincing they are.

Another example is when a stranger has a favor they need you to take care of and they offer you a significant amount of money in return. While the money could be enticing, you need to consider the situation thoroughly before you decide to accept. What if the mission isn’t what it seems? What if you’re getting yourself involved in a sticky situation and you’re not prepared? Once again, it’s best to politely decline the offer.

Ultimately, when it comes to being too available, you have to consider whether the task is worth your time and effort. If you feel like you’re putting yourself in a compromising situation, it’s best to decline politely. Strangers can take advantage and if you’re too available, you might find yourself in plenty of sticky situations. And that’s something no one wants to do.

Strangers Can Take Advantage

When you make yourself too available, you risk strangers taking advantage of you. It’s so easy to fall into the trap of offering your friendship, help, and time to anyone and everyone who comes along. Very often, people who are desperate for attention or for help will latch onto this out of pure desperation and will do anything to get what they need.

They may also be shady characters, with long histories of exploiting others, who can smell a friendly, unsuspecting person from a mile away. You may think they are being sincere, but in reality, they are just playing you to get what they want and once they have it, they will take off and leave you standing in the dust.

But here’s the thing: you can’t always sense this from afar. So even if you don’t trust a new acquaintance, it can be very close to impossible to tell if they are only being friendly to get something from you. Therefore, if you choose to be extremely available, you should make sure to be careful and be on the lookout for those tricky individuals who seek you out.

So, if you make yourself too available, it’s best to be on high alert when dealing with people you don’t know. Do your best to read between the lines and be aware of those who might want to take advantage of you. After all, the last thing you want is to be the victim of someone else’s selfish desires.

You Might Feel Taken for Granted

When it comes to being too available, one of the potential cons you might come across is feeling taken for granted. It’s an understandable concern—after all, it’s not a great feeling when you feel like you’re the only one going out of your way to help without getting anything in return! Now, if you’re feeling like this, it may be time to reevaluate why you’re doing the things you’re doing.

Let’s take me as an example. I have some friends that I’d consider to be like family to me. Whenever they’re in a jam, they hit me up and I’m more than happy to lend a helping hand. Whether they need a spare car, a place to crash, or just someone to lean on, I’m their go-to guy.

But then, the other day, I was feeling a little like my help was taken for granted. No “thank you,” or anything of the sort. Instead, it seemed like it was expected that I was always the one to do the helping. That’s when I realized that being too available had gone too far and it was time for me to step back a bit.

After that thought, I decided that, going forward, I’ll be more aware of when I’m feeling taken for granted and ensure that I’m making sure that I’m getting something out of my efforts, too. Sure, it’s nice to be able to do nice things for people, but it shouldn’t come at the expense of my own well-being.

Plus, sometimes, it’s just nice to get a little recognition. Who doesn’t want to hear a heartfelt “thank you” or feel appreciated every now and then? It’s okay to expect a little something in return when you’re putting in the effort.

All in all, if you feel like you’re always the one giving to others and never receiving anything in return, it might be time to slow down and reevaluate why you’re offering to help in the first place. There’s nothing wrong with being available, just make sure you’re taking care of yourself too.

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